We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems at work, in personal relationships, and in the overall quality of life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. SHARE! offers two programs to help you understand and control anger, utilizing proven-effective techniques within a supportive, non-judgmental community.
REGISTRATION: No need to register for meetings, just come in! Call 1-877-SHARE-49 for meeting times, places and verification arrangements.
COST: SHARE! suggests a donation of $2-$5 per meeting but no one is turned away for lack of funds. We can also provide third-party verification of attendance at the Anger Management programs for probation, employers, therapists, family, etc. for $50 a year.
PROGRAM #1: ANGER RELEASE
1 to 2 Meetings a week
Learn How to:
- Process original anger
- Identify triggers
- Control anger
- Not be afraid of your own or others’ anger
- Express anger appropriately
- Express your feelings
- Set limits
- Overcome fear of and anger towards authority figures
TYPICAL MEETING FORMAT: The leader reads from a written format welcoming everyone to the meeting and explaining how the meeting will be run. Part of the procedure is to do voluntary stretching exercises to limber up before sharing. Everyone in the meeting agrees to abide by the Group Guidelines. A basket is passed for donations. The meeting is opened up for sharing and one by one, people go to the front of the room for five minutes and while on their knees, use tennis rackets and bats to hit pillows and/or yell, scream, talk or in other ways express anger. No one has to share. At the end of the meeting, a list of rights is passed and read. Then each person gives one sentence for closure.
TESTIMONIALS: “SHARE!’s Anger Management Worked for Me”
“I wasn’t thrilled to be told I had to go to ‘Anger Management.’ But people are commenting about how I’ve changed. Before, I would keep all my emotions and feelings inside. Later I’d blow up, hurting either others or myself. If someone said I’d continue going to these meetings on my own, I would have told him, ‘Sure, when hell freezes over.’ But they really help. Thank God they are here.” —Vietnam veteran
“Before I went to SHARE!’s anger management meetings, people told me I was one of the angriest people they knew. After two years of three meetings a week, no one ever tells me that anymore. I am really able to enjoy life now. These self-help meetings totally changed my life.” —Incest survivor
“Participating in the anger management meetings allowed me to trace the origins of my deepest and most destructive hurts and reactions. I came to a place—the anger meetings– where finally my anger was accepted and understood and I was able to get it out without hurting others or myself. And my marriage survived.” —Former batterer
PROGRAM #2: RECOVERY, INC.
1 Meeting per week
Learn How to:
- Be cool in any situation
- Give up the anger habit
- Talk myself down
- Manage my anger
- Identify the causes of my anger
- Feel angry without acting on it
- Express myself courteously, no matter how I feel
TYPICAL MEETING FORMAT: The group reads a selection from one of neuropsychiatrist Dr. Abraham A. Low’s books that explains some of the “spots” or helpful slogans that make up the Recovery Method. The group then takes examples from members. Each example is fashioned in four parts:
- What happened to cause you to work yourself up?
- What were your physical and emotional symptoms?
- What “spots” from the Recovery technique did you use?
- How would this experience have been different if you had not used the Recovery Method?
The group then participates in making additional “spots” to each example. Newcomers are asked to observe only during their first few meetings, until they have mastered a few spots. A basket is passed for donations.
TIPS FOR NEWCOMERS:
- Sit near the back for your first few Anger Release meetings. They’re really intense.
- Participating brings quicker results. Try to share towards the end of your first Anger Release Meeting. Learn one or two spots in Recovery, Inc. and see how they apply to the example given, and then raise your hand to share it with the group.
- Be patient. It usually takes six times going to one meeting before you can see how it is helping you.
- Recovery, Inc. always starts on time, so come early. Anger Release sometimes starts a few minutes late.
- Questions and comments are not usually welcome during the meeting. Make a point to talk to people after every meeting.
Other Self-Help Meetings may be helpful to attend as needed to help you learn to address issues that contribute to your anger, including:
- Communication Issues
- Relationship Problems
- Substance Abuse
- Childhood Issues
- Family Problems
- Boundary Issues
- Illness Issues
- Money Problems
Call 1-877-SHARE-49 today for details on these and other self-help groups that can provide you with the tools and support you need to live a better, happier life!